24 August 2012
'Don’t attempt kissing in a canoe unless you are both able to swim.'
So says the author of this essential guide to choosing, wooing and winning a prospective partner. Originally appearing as Dos and Don’ts for Lovers in 1936, How to be a Good Lover is being published by the Bodleian Library from a rare copy unearthed in its collections.
Ever-vigilant about the pleasures and pitfalls of love and courtship, this charming, no-nonsense self-help guide presents down-to-earth advice for those on the path of love, which, if trodden cautiously, should lead to the ultimate goal of a happy partnership and marriage.
Whilst reminding the reader that the institution of marriage is of paramount importance the author highlights the certain misery of marrying the wrong person ‘courtship is, in effect, a preliminary to marriage … Therefore, a step taken in the wrong direction now may alter the whole course of your existence.’
Featuring advice on the pursuit, courting, flirtation, the language of love, popping the question, the engagement, parents and relatives, telling the others and getting the home together, this little book offers sage guidance to finding true love and to avoiding the folly of an unsuitable partnership.
Delightfully illustrated with contemporary line drawings, this wise companion to the pleasures and perils of love will delight everyone with a sweetheart, and caution those without one to choose wisely!
Remember: ‘to be easily won is to be lightly valued’!
Further advice from How to be a Good Lover
'The person to marry is not the one you can get on with but the one you can’t get on without.'
'It is very inadvisable to marry anyone who laughs at your parents.'
'Do bear in mind when there’s any mistletoe about that two heads are better than one.'
'As far as possible look for a partner with tastes similar to your own but whose disposition is different.'
'Don’t neglect an opportunity of being charming.'
'Don’t attempt to kiss your lover with your hat still on your head, young man.'
Do realise, my dear young lady, that unjust though it may appear, it is far more necessary for a woman to be careful of her conduct than it is for a man.